Many opportunities to talk with your children can be found throughout the day. Listen carefully to what your children say. Find opportunities to talk with them instead of at them. Dinnertime is a good time for families to share information. Bedtime allows a chance for some private time when parents and children can discuss what's going on in the child's life.

How you talk to your children is important too. Get at eye level and eliminate distractions. Ask questions, but don't interrogate. Keep it brief and don't lecture. Help your children feel comfortable when they tell you things. If they fear your reaction, they won't volunteer much information.

If children tell you about a problem, remain calm and hear them out. By listening calmly, asking brief clarifying questions, and saying understanding words, you will help your children open up. Once you have heard the whole story, you'll be better able to discuss the situation and come up with solutions.

Always remember to praise your children when they try to share their problems, thoughts and opinions with you.